See, I lent voice to thought and that was my mistake.
- Toby Ziegler, The West Wing: "Debate Camp"
Think before you speak. Simple, right? Then why does it seem like nobody does?
Before you talk, pause and ask yourself: Does this need to be stated? What am I trying to accomplish by saying it?
If the answer to the first question is no, and you don't immediately know the answer to the second... shut up. With practice, the pause will go by faster. Soon, just thinking of the pause will be enough.
It's amazing, what little needs to be said. After awhile, it's a mental exercise like haiku. How do I convey this in ten words or less? While others are reacting, stay in the moment and pay attention. If the moment isn't worth your attention, stockpile some polite, noncommittal phrases. (In a pinch, you can lose the politeness.)
Over time, you'll become more aware of how often people blather on idiotically. People give themselves away without realizing it, giving you details they didn't intend, especially if your focus and relative lack of chatter makes them uncomfortable.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
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